Life can be tricky. There are traps galore, and most of them we are probably not even aware of. None of us seeks to waste our lives, it just seems to happen. Awareness is the key, but it’s never so simple. Here are six signs that you may be wasting your life. If you find that a few of them apply to you, don’t fret. Have a sense of humor about it. Laugh at yourself. And then pull yourself out of the trap and jump-start your life. Sometimes you have to wreck your life in order to fix it.
1) You’re unhealthy: mind, body, and soul
“The most dangerous phrase in the language is, ‘We’ve always done it this way.’” –Grace Hopper
If you worry too much and you tend to dwell on the past and do a little too much of #2 in this article, you may be unhealthy in mind. If you never exercise and you are not eating healthy food and moderating unhealthy food, you may be unhealthy in body. If you never practice mindfulness or meditation and you never embrace nature and solitude, you may be unhealthy in soul.
Nikola Tesla was correct when he said “Our entire biological system, the brain (the body, the soul), and the Earth itself, work on the same frequencies.” It’s our responsibility to tune our biology and our consciousness to resonate with the fundamental harmonics of the universe. First and foremost: in order to have a solid foundation from which to live a meaningful life, get yourself healthy.
2) You are overly negative
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” –William James
“Choose” is the keyword in the above quote by William James. This is a big one. Happiness is indeed a choice. If you’re overly negative, generally glass-is-half-empty, and complain too much, then you are choosing poorly. There’s a wealth of joy to be savored in this life. Start savoring it. Begin now. With enough practice those negative thoughts will fade away, and even when things go horribly wrong you’ll appreciate how they can make you stronger, and therefore happier, in the long run.
This is so important to living a meaningful life. Like the water molecule experiments by Dr Masaru Emoto shows: positive thoughts lead to healthy molecules leads to a healthy body leads to a healthy mind leads to a healthy soul. Think positive. Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst, and then make the best of it either way.
3) You don’t challenge yourself enough
“It is not the path which is the difficulty. It is the difficulty which is the path.” –Søren Kierkegaard
If you never leave your comfort zone, you never travel, and you always have a reason or excuse for not trying something new, then you may be wasting your life. The universe is an amazing place. There is so much to learn, so much to experience. If you’ve closed yourself off to most of it, then your life will reflect that.
If you don’t read enough or you only read one book over and over again, swearing off all other forms of knowledge, then you are closed-off and you’re not challenging yourself enough. Get out there and embrace the world. Hug the hurricane. Dance with the apocalypse. Stretch your comfort zone until your bursting with fear and trepidation, and then move back to your “safe place” and heal. Keep doing that over and over again, stretching more and more, and you will grow in ways that will stagger your soul and make your heart say “wow!”
4) You let others tell you how to live
“Angry people want you to see how powerful they are. Loving people want you to see how powerful you are.” –Chief Red Eagle
There’s nothing wrong with good advice. But remember: it’s up to you whether it is good advice or not. Nobody knows you like you do. Nobody else has your unique memories. You are, or should be, the driving force in your life. If you are allowing somebody else to drive your life, then you may be wasting it. Question all authority, especially those telling you how to live. Question this article even.
Go out there and figure it out for yourself. And that’s the point, really, figuring it out for yourself. Take the “good” advice where you can get it, but be circumspect. You’re always your own boss, even when you’re giving your power over to others. You can always take it back. It’s up to you. Even if you grew up in an unhealthy or damaging situation, “You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in.” – Eliezer Yudkowsky
5) You don’t feel worthy
“We become more worthy the more we bend our minds to the impersonal. We become better as we take in the universe, thinking more about the largeness that is and less about the smallness that is us.” –Rebecca Goldstein
Self-worth is both one of the easiest and one of the most difficult things we can choose to have. It usually takes courage, because it usually asks that we “act” worthy even before we “feel” worthy. If you find you’re feeling worthless often, then it’s time to act worthy. Trick yourself into higher cosmic resonance. Jump-start your soul with an act of worth that will cause your comfort zone to quake like it was drawn over a fault line.
Similar to feeling negative (#2), acting worthy is a choice. If you practice acting worthy enough, then eventually you will feel worthy and won’t even have to act. Have fun with it. It’s like playing a game of reverse-psychology on yourself. Sometimes you have to fool the inner-fool that is telling you you’re unworthy by hoodwinking it into a trap of worthiness.
6) You spend too much time worried about money
“Do not feel envious of the happiness of those who live in a fool’s paradise, for only a fool will think that is happiness.” –Bertrand Russell
If you think work is the only thing that matters or that the world owes you something, then you may be wasting your life by worrying too much about money. Money is perhaps the biggest distraction to living a meaningful life that there is. This is mostly because of cultural conditioning and a system built upon fundamentally unsustainable principles. Our culture breeds greediness at its core. Most of us are raised believing that the almighty buck will somehow save us, or that money is the key to happiness, or even that money will bring us love.